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Thursday, April 19th 2012, 2:22pm

How do I stay Sane?

Hi All,
I know the whole IVF cycle is just one wait after the next, but I'm struggling massively!
We had our BFP just over a week ago now, but still have just under 3 weeks left to go until our scan is booked. I know it's the same for all you lovely ladies - but any tips for getting through the wait - I feel like i'm driving myself mad!?
Unfortunately work has got a bit quieter (which is good for stress levels, but not good for having time on your hands!) and I just sit there thinking about it most of the day. I had bloating at first and now thats going down, the first couple of days after the test I had some nausea, but that seems to have passed too. I've done tests every few days to check it's still real, but I worry that what if something has gone wrong! How would I know? This wait is a nightmare! I am sure I will relax once we have the scan.
Sorry ladies, just needed to get it all off my chest a bit!
Thank you xxx

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Thursday, April 19th 2012, 4:28pm

It's almost near impossible to stay sane :snigger:

Congratulations on your BFP! From BFP to first scan is such a tense time, i know and it does feel like forever. BUT, the day will come and you will still be (just about) sane by the time you get there! There isn't much to keep you from thinking about it noon night and day i'm afraid - its just what you always wanted and the feelings and thoughts just aren't going away....best to keep your self busy on FZ if work is quiet :snigger: Not that i am endorsing skiving or anything :whistling:

Hope the time starts to speed up for you and good luck at your scan blowkiss


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Thursday, April 19th 2012, 4:33pm

Congratulations on your bfp!!!! How wonderful :party: :congrats: :balloons:

The best what I found for myself is talking to other ladies who is experiencing same as me. This website is wonderful place, hope you find so too starsmile

I wish you healthy and happy pregnancy and wish time speeds up for you blowkiss
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Thursday, April 19th 2012, 5:07pm

Thank you both for your replies. This site has definately been a god send last cycle and this one. It's so nice having friendly people that have been through it all and being able to get great advice.
Thank you again and big hugs grouphug
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Thursday, April 19th 2012, 5:50pm

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Friday, April 20th 2012, 12:43pm

hi

Congrats on your BFP! Sadly I don't think there is a cure... we all worry ridiculously, and the only thing I can suggest is to keep yourself busy. During the week there is work, if you're quiet get a book in and read, anything to take your mind off it. Weekends we tried a trip away and booked lots of things with friends. But the wait is agonising. And depending on your circumstances, it gets a bit better at each scan, but I found the whole first trimester a killer! But the good thing is you got your BFP, and it's good from here. I had no symptoms til 7/8 weeks, and I think that's normal, so please don't be paranoid about not having any. Stay strong and busy!

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Friday, April 20th 2012, 1:01pm

Thank you Jewels. Each person I hear from I do feel a little better. I just think the whole process is one worry after the next and we spend so long waiting for symptoms, then worrying when we do get them! I just can't get the feeling out of my head that we will go for the scan and there will be no heart beat or it won't have grown at all. The knicker watch isn't as bad, just the worry at the actual scan. Don't know whats made me feel this way. I think maybe because we were told the quality of the embryo's wasn't great, it has made me worry they won't have continued to grow. Just wish this was all a bit easier!
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Friday, April 20th 2012, 6:38pm

Hunny, please try not to worry. It does get a little easier after the first couple of weeks. I drove myself mad between 4 and 6 weeks and convinced myself it was an ectopic pg. the week before the scan wasn't do bad but on the way to the clinic at 7.5 weeks for the scan I was so frightened of what we would see.

I think the other ladies are right about keeping yourself busy. It was really quiet at work for me too so I spent a lot of time on FZ (without getting into trouble) and the ladies here helped a lot with my worries.

My symptoms also didn't kick until 7-8 weeks so don't worry if you don't 'feel' pregnant at the moment.

I'm hoping the time passes quickly for you xxx



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Friday, April 20th 2012, 8:00pm

Hiya Bissy

Glad you took my advice and started to come on here more often :thumbsup:

It is a killer the wait, I just tried to take my mind off it and the time soon went, the first trimester I was on constant knicker watch lol. I think you just got to try and relax about it as all the stress of worrying wont help. I took my mind of things by doing loads of research on the internet and plannign ahead. I also bought a prebnancy calendar where you can detail each day any symptoms that you have which is good to look back on , I had my scan at 7 weeks and heart beat was seen, then my symptoms started about 8 weeks and got worse from then on lol.
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Friday, April 20th 2012, 8:09pm

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