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  • "maryella" started this thread

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Wednesday, May 12th 2010, 7:58pm

pregnant after loss and cant relax

hi just wanted to put a post on here to see if anyone feels the same

im 6 weeks pregnant after 2nd ivf-ive had 4 ectopic pregnancies and one tubal abortion and my first ivf failed

i am so worried about this pregnancy and so concerned that the scan on 24th may will be bad news

ive always had empty scans at a reaccurrent ectopic pregnancy sufferer and im just convince there will be nothing in this scan either

i know its kinda normal after what ive been through so i hope by writing it here it will make it easier


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Wednesday, May 12th 2010, 8:06pm

I can understand how worried you are and I suggest you try and keep yourself busy as the stress will not be doing you any good. Good luck for your scan and hope the time goes quicker for you x

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Wednesday, May 12th 2010, 8:32pm

You really have been through it hon. :hugs: it's not surprising you are stressing. I had one mc and was also stressed especially as I had lots of bleeding. All I can tell you is that it will get easier as time goes on. Each scan will give you a little more reassurance.
It's because you want this so much that you are worrying. I worried too and look at me now! :D

statistically you are far more likely to have a good scan than not so keep up the pma if you can.

When is your scan?


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Wednesday, May 12th 2010, 9:00pm

Oh hun no wonder you can't relax. :sadface: You have been through a hell of a lot, I think it's understandable you feel this way as all your past experiences have been so heartbreaking.

After my first loss I spoke to a very good friend that said this.


A mc is one of the worst things to ever happen to a woman and of course you're thinking back to when it happened before. A really good tip I was told and will try this time(Cos it will work) is to try and remember all the good feelings you felt about being pg and almost give permission for this little baby to stay with you. Bit arty farty but it sounds pretty cool to me..if you really think about it you don't have any control from now as to the outcome, its more than likely going to work for you, just think of little ducklings trying to get out of the water..Sounds bizarre but if it doesn't happen immediately they just keep trying and trying and trying til they do..and they always do!

I tried it with my second and third pg's, I felt so much better for enjoying the time I had with our babies even when I lost our second LO. Don't get me wrong, I did have moments of sheer terror when I thought everything was going wrong again but on the whole I felt a lot better.

I'm not sure how you manage the scan thing, I think that is the one thing that you will always dread and everyone I know that has had bad scans always says the same. :sadface:

I hope writing your feelings down has made you feel a little better.

Good luck with your scan. xfingers


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Wednesday, May 19th 2010, 10:23am

Good luck girl.

After 3 miscarriges, I know exactly how you feel. But you know what, you are meant to have a baby and hopefully this little embryo is the one. Think of the others as they were not meant to be. Maybe a different time in your life or those particular embies were faulty.

Keep strong and have faith that yes there is a little baby growing in you. Try to keep busy and try to not stress as it just makes the situation worse.

After 8 scans, I still get major butterflies every time and always have a slight worry something will be wrong but that feeling gets easier and easer. Besides, it's much nicer and more enjoyable to take every step in your stride and just be chilled, happy and pregnant!

Best of luck.
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Friday, June 18th 2010, 9:09pm

I just wanted to follow this post up for anyone else reading that i am now 12 weeks pregnant
nuchal scan and baby looking great and no complications so far
feel much more positive and hope others going through this can keep the faith and find hope in my story that dreams seem to come true


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