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Monday, October 22nd 2007, 10:46pm

Would you use a registered childminder?

As DH is in army, we have just moved to Portsmouth. We sometimes have balls come up that we would like to go to but we don't have any family around to help with babysitting if we were to go.

We have a ball coming up in December. I was wondering if anyone would actually use a registered childminder that they don't know as a one off now and then.

You hear so many different stories and you end up worrying, "what if". Well I do anyway.

Would anyone use like an Ofsted registered childminder?



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Monday, October 22nd 2007, 10:56pm

I would!

You HAVE to be able to trust people... most of the population are good people and we have to trust caregivers, nursery nurses, teachers, dinner ladies, nurses, doctors.... chilminders and babysitters....

You need a life too and as long as checks are done and you trust your gut instinct then.... I would go for it...





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Monday, October 22nd 2007, 11:23pm

Thanks Bells x x x



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Tuesday, October 23rd 2007, 8:12am

Absolutely. Thats what these people are for. Would it be possible to have a practice run before the event, then you know you can trust the childminder and will be able to relax ont he night and enjoy yourself?





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Tuesday, October 23rd 2007, 9:50am

yep, absolutely, thats what they're for and like Bells says there are lots and lots of very trustworthy people out there







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Tuesday, October 23rd 2007, 10:17am

Ask around where you live because my Ofsted Registred Childminder lives on our Patch literally 5 houses away!!! Many Army wives do Child minding as they know they can get good business due to the nature of our dh's job's!!! We're going to the xmas ball on the 1st of Dec I cant wait it will be our first night out. We're going to take the babies to Essex to Stay with their great Aunt and Uncle for the night as they love them so much and will get spoilt rotten. Where are your nearest Family???

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Tuesday, October 23rd 2007, 10:22am

I would too. Ask for references, not just written ones, but a phone number of someone you can call and chat to about the person. I have a childminder once a week (regularly) for DS2. I liked her, but was only completely convinced when I talked to a referee who spoke so highly of her, really genuinely. DS2 loves going there now, and I'm completely comfortable with the arrangement.

I agree though, to get C to meet her at least once before the day itself is a good idea so that you don't worry when you're at the ball.
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Tuesday, October 23rd 2007, 1:07pm

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Originally posted by Limpet
I would too. Ask for references, not just written ones, but a phone number of someone you can call and chat to about the person. I have a childminder once a week (regularly) for DS2. I liked her, but was only completely convinced when I talked to a referee who spoke so highly of her, really genuinely. DS2 loves going there now, and I'm completely comfortable with the arrangement.

I agree though, to get C to meet her at least once before the day itself is a good idea so that you don't worry when you're at the ball.


What she said!!!! I think as long as you have got references, done a spot check, and by this i mean just turn up unannounced, have a list of questions, and as long as you feel comfortable and confident that they are going to do everything that you want, the way you want then as long as your all happy it ahould be fine!!! xxx
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Tuesday, October 23rd 2007, 11:21pm

My problem is this.....

Chloe usuallygoes down fine. But occassionally she cries 1-2 times before 11pm. Not sure why, but a cuddle from mummy usually stops her and she goes straight back to sleep.

She wont settle if Daddy cuddles her, she wont even go near him so I would worry that she won't settle for a babysitter/minder. It would probably be the same if my Mum looked after her also.

Where DH was in Iraq and on courses she has got so used to just me and she don't want anyone but me. I guess I will just have to try it and see how it goes???



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Tuesday, January 8th 2008, 7:19pm

Ohhh - am meeting with a potential childminder for max on thursday - what sort of questions should i ask? So far I have

How is the child's day structured?
How do you discipline the children?
Where do they nap?
Are you first aid trained?
Do you provide food? If so what type of food do you give the children?
What is the age group of the other children you mind?


I am so clueless at this - help!!! She is a registered childminder so I presume I can check her ofsted report - how do i go about doing this?

Thank you!!


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Tuesday, January 8th 2008, 7:45pm

Will the childminder look after him at your home, at his/her home or at other place?
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Tuesday, January 8th 2008, 7:54pm

Hello hun - hope ok xxx

Ask about if she will take the children out for day ie to simulate them - i know this might come under structured - but even if she takes them out once a forthnight to the park or something think this is good

My friend told me to ask this

I will be using a childminder too for after school and part holidays


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Tuesday, January 8th 2008, 8:46pm

Are there any particulr aspects of Max's routine you want her to continue? If so ask her how she feels about that and would it cause her a problem.





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Tuesday, January 8th 2008, 9:27pm

I'd add

- does anyone else visit their house whilst they are childminding (some child minders buddy up with another child minder)
- do they have any back up if they are ill (like above some have a reciprical arrangment with other child minders in cases of emergencies)
- do they have any pets

Ask to look at her latest Ofsted report and ask for her reference no. - once you have that you can go on the Ofsted website and look her up.



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Wednesday, January 9th 2008, 1:08pm

Thanks everyone - i have all my questions sorted now - just hope we like eachother!


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Thursday, January 10th 2008, 7:55pm

I cant believe how lucky I am!!! Met with the childminder today and she was like a real life mary poppins! I fell in love with her in about 2 mins. Lovely lady, gorgeous house 5 mins walk from mine, 2 great polite kids and another little cutie that she minds. Everything in her welcome pack is exactly what I was looking for and she seemed great with M. He is going to have a couple of trial visits next month to see how he gets on and subject to references he will be going there when i return to work part time in march. I just hope it works out, she seemed so lovely and after 10 minutes i felt like i was round at a mates having a playdate. Feel much better about going back to work now. I am a happy mummy!!


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Thursday, January 10th 2008, 8:33pm

Thats good Glitzy, it makes so much differnece if you are happy with your childcare.





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Thursday, January 10th 2008, 8:53pm

That's brilliant she sounds perfect :smile:

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Friday, January 11th 2008, 12:04pm

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Friday, January 11th 2008, 12:24pm

H, glad you were happy with her, its so important isnt it, it turns your stomach to think of a stranger looking after your LO but I am so glad you liked her and it went well.

Back to work in March!!!! OMG. You will be fine x



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Friday, January 11th 2008, 12:37pm

Obviously you have to check various facts and details, like insurance and registration, but there is such a large sense of gut feeling too and to like her and feel you can trust her immediately is *brilliant*!

I'm so pleased for you H!
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